Acceptance and letting go. I think that’s a hard one for most of us. When you come to a place with something where the hope you had around it isn’t in fact coming to fruition, no matter what you do or how much you try. Where no matter how much you love and how much you give, the journey is in fact taking you in another direction. I can get caught up in the potential so much that I don’t always see and accept what is right in front of me. It’s a hard one, but one that through my experiences I’m getting more conscious about.
I’ve been experiencing this in profound ways this year, as have many people that I know. We have to concentrate on the lessons in these experiences because if we get too focused on the loss, it can consume us. I’ve never avoided my feelings, but I’ve been working hard at recognizing that they’re there for me to learn and grow from, not to react to. When I look at it from that perspective, no matter how difficult and how much loss is involved, it makes it easier for me to keep on track and keep focused on moving forward.
With my mother’s death, I feel even clearer with what’s important and what isn’t. What I’m willing to accept and manage, and what needs to be put in my rear view. I can’t deal with or live in chaos, especially when I’m doing the work to keep my issues in check and not project them onto others, and staying truthful in the process. I have the gift of therapy in my life, and I’ve leaned on my therapist, Kathy, throughout my tough year. Kathy, can you speak on the art of letting go?
“It is difficult to let go and it is more difficult to forgive. Allowing yourself to forgive is truly letting go!”
Forgiveness is so powerful and has enabled me to stay in the positive and the love as I accept loss and let go of the things I cannot change. So keep your eyes wide open, stay in your work and focus on what you’re supposed to get out of each experience. Recognize that life is a risk, but know that you can’t avoid taking the risks in order to save yourself from hardship. If you do, your whole life will be a hardship, because there will be no growth and no enlightenment. Love and forgiveness need to be the driving forces, even if you’re being challenged to stay in that place. When you allow yourself to get caught up in resentment, anger and bitterness, I feel you will continue to perpetuate that negative energy. Not good if you’re working towards living a better, more blissful life. Stay in your bliss as much as you can, and keep on keeping on!