This has been a year of transitions, and not just for me but for a lot of people whom I know. I’ve spoken with so many who have been dealing with profound losses. It super fucking sucks! I know that it’s a part of life. I know that I’m learning and growing through these difficult times, but it doesn’t make the hard part any easier. I’ve been having a heavy heart these past months. With that being said, though, I’m also finding the light peering through, making me know that there is hope, healing, and forward motion under way.
When we think of something ending, we’re faced with the reality of our situation. That nothing lasts forever and that we’re all ultimately alone. Sorry for sounding a bit cliché, but the reason that they’re clichés is because they’re true! It can be really daunting when you sit down and really think about what that means. Yet we know through science that we are all from the same stuff. Star stuff. We know that we as a species share the same DNA.
So why do we feel that just because we are alone, we are not connected. It’s all energy, so it’s interacting everywhere all the time. I just have to believe that all of the things that happen to us, that all of the people who come into our lives in significant ways, that all of those things have reason and we are bound together through it.
Another thing about loss is that it is very important to remember that even when you’re experiencing it, you have to fit some happiness in there through the process in order to keep you living fully. I remember watching, I think it was the Today show, about five years back, and there was a man on there that was saying that often times, when we are suffering hardship, we only see the difficulty and leave out the other things that are around us that are good.
That the hardship is just a piece of the pie, but there are other pieces there at the same time that are being ignored. So don’t ignore those things that bring you joy and happiness just because there is great transition happening in your life. You need to be able to balance the challenges, so that there is relief from the pain of the struggle. Keep yourself engaged as much as possible, and get out and do things. It helps remind us that we are all in this thing together.