Older Gay Men: Stay Out Of Gay Clubs?

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August 22, 2014
6:00 a.m.


Story Courtesy Of Ross Von Metke

If you’re an older gay man, blogger Dalton Heinrich has a message for you. Host a dinner party on Friday nights. You’re too old to be going out.

In a post written for GayGuys.com, he writes: “Why is it a social norm of ours to be in our late forties and going clubbing and bar hopping multiple times a week? Of the hundreds of grown men I know, why are so few of them actually grown up?”

Heinrich goes on to say that he is looking for a role model or a mentor to show him the ropes in the gay community, but because gay men suffer from Peter Pan Syndrome, they’re almost impossible to find.

“[A]ll gay men are terrified to grow up,” he writes “The abundance of thirty and forty something’s that attend nightclubs persistently and dress like they are going to a college frat party is astounding.

“This portion of grown men clinging to the wild nights and serial dating of their twenties seem to live in a secret Neverland. These Lost Boys that are terrified of actually looking their age and are always fighting off time instead of aging gracefully and being something helpful for the young gay man to idolize?”

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Inactive User
Inactive User
7 years, 8 months ago

Really what we’re talking about here is *unconscious* behavior. In other words, doing something because you’re avoiding feeling something else or because you are afraid to be yourself. There’s nothing wrong with guys in their 40s, 50s, 60s or even older going out clubbing; it’s all about the *reasons* for doing it. It’s fun and dancing is a great emotional release and great exercise, everyone should be doing it. I’m enjoying clubs more now in my 50s than I did in my 20s because there’s no angst about pickups or how I look: I just go and have fun. Everyone deserves that.

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Rudy Spencer (Guest)
6 years, 11 months ago

Any older males 58 – 68 living in the Bay Area??